Options and Choices, Head and Heart?

I asked them to sit. Bella accepted. Molly sat clearly obeying with her head but not exactly happy in her heart. Bear is still thinking!

The ROQUE Model is a status inventory that invites the user to reflect on: Your Self as HUMAN BEING, your RELATIONAL Self and your PROFESSIONAL or Vocational Self. This instrument is not a test yet it prompts you to consider, examine and evaluate. The ROQUE Model is based on the ROQUE Coaching and Discovery tool. At the heart of ROQUE is the suggestion that we are always and uniquely faced with continuous choices. We refer to them as OPTIONS about which we have to  make decisions. Some of these decisions are small both in impact and in addressing, and others are significant enough to warrant the term QUEST. We use the concept QUEST as opposed to choice or decision because we believe that just a rational process may not be balanced enough for the right perspective. So we suggest that when choosing between OPTIONS, we consider their impact based both on how we feel, that is with the HEART and how we rationalize, that is with the HEAD. You can test this for yourself in the everyday decisions you have to make and the big life impacting OPTIONS before you.

Critical to the ROQUE philosophy is the starting point. ROQUE always starts with REALITY Now. In other words, examining what is really going on without assessing or judging. Being careful to note causes and symptoms before one starts on the stage of examining what OPTIONS are to be considered.

The following is a recent TED.com talk where Ruth Chang shares an interesting perspective on why we may sometimes find it hard to make a choice. Equally interesting is the conversation that accompanies the web discussion.

Ruth Chang rightly notes that hard choices can be precious opportunities. And the thrust of her argument, as a philosopher is that we need to be rational about our decisions. We ask, only rational? Is that all the resource open to us for major life impacting decisions or QUESTS? Chang says that from the conventional     scale of judgement of better, worse or equal we need to add value. This gives us the power to create a reason which helps us make a decision. It would seem to us that Ruth Chang is follow on or building upon the traditional rational school as exemplified by the so called Decision Matrix. It is interesting that philosopher Ruth Chang does not once mention the emotional or Heart element in decision making, a subject   of increase and varying debates and discussion.

For some additional resources on the Head and Heart follow the links below:

7 TED Talks on how we make decisions.

Head versus heart: Why it makes a difference

How to Make Your Heart and Mind Work Together

The Heart, Mind and Spirit